Choosing the right dildo can be intimidating or even overwhelming, considering the very large variety of shapes, sizes and designs available on the market today. That’s why comprehensive guides exist to navigate this diverse landscape and help you select a double sided dildo that meets your desires, preferences and experience level. But now that you’ve made the decision, that’s just step one — once you’ve been introduced to what could be your new best friend (the right kind of dildo), another question arises: how do you use it so that pleasure is involved, and ensures the most satisfying experience? That’s where I bridge a gap, with guidance and tips and insights based on my personal experience to better inform you on your journey of discovery into sexual pleasure.
Essentially, a dildo is any kind of penetrative sex toy. This can be done through the G-spot in the vagina or P-spot in the anus. Dildos come in nearly infinite varieties — different lengths, widths, colors, materials and shapes. Many are molded to look like the penis, since that’s the shape most bodies are biologically built to take and enjoy, but there are also a slew of abstract, curved or fantasy designs for anyone who wants to get adventurous beyond the tried-and-true.
Among the more specialized varieties are double-ended dildos, which may seem a little intimidating or strange at first glance. These double sided dildos have insertable ends on both tips, which make them great for shared or couples play. Just like normal dildos, double ended dildos come in a wide range of sizes, shapes and flexibility. Some are hard and stiff; others are soft and flexible; some even come in tapered versions, with one end slightly larger than the other. This allows partners with varying comfort levels or experience to enjoy the toy. Double-ended dildos are for more than couple play, too—they’re perfect for solo exploration as well, giving users an opportunity to hone their skills and comfort level with larger sizes over time.
Double sided dildos are incredibly versatile, limited only by your imagination and creativity. Each end can be for vaginal or anal penetration depending on the anatomy and whether single partner play or double partner play is taking place. Both partners may use opposite ends at once, or in solo play the double sided dildos can be used for double penetration — one end in each opening or both in a single hole — or simply as a long pleasurable dildo for those who like length.
As a beginner, this is wise move to start with a flexible model that will bend and allow you to get into different positions as you experiment in search for what feels best. If you’re familiar and comfortable with double sided dildos or sex, though, your understanding of which lengths and sizes work for you may already be intact; if not, sticking to smaller or more manageable sizes is best. The smaller double-ended dildos can also promote closer contact, resulting in a more intimate and connected experience as partners have to work together to move their bodies into the right position.
A lot of lube can really make things better. So slips it on, reduces friction, enhances insertion as well as general satisfaction. It is especially important for anal play because the anus does not create lubrication like the vagina does. Use water-based lubricants when using any type of sex toy; silicone used in porn star toys are susceptible to degradation if used with silicone-based lubes. If you’re using a double-ended dildo for penetration on multiple individuals at once, don’t forget to put lube on both ends to make sure everything glides smoothly.
As there are many double sided dildos that can take time to learn to use (especially double-ended dildos), positioning them can be complicated. If you don’t hit the right angle or surface, double sided dildos can slip or feel awkward. For solo double penetration, one method is to insert one end first, curve the middle around in a U-shape and use that midsection as a handle while guiding the other end. You can also sit and lean the middle part against a flat surface to bounce for extra depth and power.
There are many positions to enhance couple play by using double sided dildos. Sitting facing each other in “crab style” position, for instance, means you can insert the toy and bring your bodies close together to rock back and forth with entangled legs. Other toys — such as a clitoral vibrator or bullet on the head of the penis — can also help ramp up pleasure. Doggy-style positions are also effective for anal penetration, and with practice some would even experiment by using the toy as strapless strap-on, making use of muscle control to keep it in place while penetrating a partner.
The fun is in trying out different angles, techniques and positions. The learning curve for using a double-ended dildo may take some getting used to, but the end result is a super personal and pleasurable activity for both partners. These double sided dildos can unlock new sensations and sexual pursuits not possible with a standard dildo, and there are so many styles, seductively abstract shapes, that there is almost certainly one for you. A double-ended dildo may very well be the perfect toy for your collection.