Fun Ways to Use a Dildo With a Partner

Looking for a new adventure of shared pleasure that will take you to various horizons? It is difficult to deny that bringing a dildo into the bedroom can be one of the best ways to deepen some form of intimacy, discover near-infinite new sensations, and simply have a great time with your significant other. Can you imagine a world where a simple toy could unlock this kind of all encompassing excitement and subsequent connection between people? A dildo itself can be used in so many different ways – tantalizing teases, more ‘physical’ shared orgasms being two prime examples – true discovery (of either or both partners) is the end result of this type of play.

We have packed this guide with as many creative ideas as possible to get you started on your personal project. This specific session focuses on incorporating the dildo into partnered play; all levels of comfort are and should be considered. Getting into the ‘fun’ of it is what we hope you take away from everything we say. Time to start exploring.

Why Bring a Dildo into Partnered Play?

We will cover the “how” of introducing a dildo in this article, but first let’s talk about the “why.” Adding a dildo can be a highly enjoyable experience for everyone involved. Replacing anything or someone in one’s life is not the intention; simply adding this form of sensation as a part of sexual activity is what I am aiming for. More of a layering of some sort of experience, both physical and otherwise, is the end result. New dynamics are and will be created.

A dildo can help you:

• Explore new sensations simultaneously.
• Orgasms come in all shapes and sizes.
• You can make it look incredibly hot by adding a visual element.
• Hands can be used for other things.

“Introducing a dildo was a game-changer for us. It opened up conversations about what we both enjoy and led to some of the most connected, fun sex we’ve ever had. It’s our favorite way to spice things up!” – A Happy Couple

Getting Started: Communication is Key

In order to take the right steps, the most important thing to do is to talk about it. Having an open and enthusiastic discussion before bringing a toy into bed with your child should be the first priority. Sharing various curiosities with your partner is key; listening to what they have to say is just as important. Both of you needing to understand at least some aspect of the other’s perspective is what I believe to be fundamental. Exploring together (of whatever nature) is the end goal. Thinking of it as a shared adventure, a slightly new way of spending time with family, would be something I would push for.

Fun and Creative Ways to Use a Dildo Together

Ready for some inspiration? Whether you’re looking for gentle exploration or more advanced play, here are some ways to use a Dildo with your partner.

1. The Ultimate Foreplay Tool

You can think of the dildo as a foreplay wand. You can use it to explore each other’s bodies.

• External Teasing: Gently trace the dildo over your partner’s skin. Glide it along their inner thighs, stomach, and chest. The smooth surface creates quite delightful sensations. A glass dildo is fantastic for this – warming it up or cooling it down for some form of temperature play is the perfect touch.
• Clitoral & Perineal Stimulation: While one partner is receiving oral sex or being kissed, the other can use the dildo for more targeted clitoral (or at least perineal) stimulation. Layering these different sensations together is what makes it near impossible to describe; mind blowing, in every sense of the word.

2. Double the Pleasure: Simultaneous Stimulation

What if you could both experience incredible sensations at the same time? A dildo makes it possible.

• Side-by-Side Fun: Lie next to each other and masturbate with your toys, or use a dildo together. An intimate way of finding out what your partner likes is possible through this method.
• During Penetrative Sex: There is a reason why this is one of the greatest classics of all time. Stimulating the clitoral area while the receiving (or giving) partner is penetrating is the primary goal. A dildo, used by either partner, serves this purpose well. Some level of ‘split attention’ is acceptable and often leads to a powerful blended orgasm. The receiving partner holding said dildo against the clitoris of the other is a beautiful end result to missionary (or any form) penetrative sex.

3. Hands-Free Fun with a Suction Cup Dildo

A suction cup dildo opens up a universe of possibilities by freeing up everyone’s hands.

Suction cup Dildos can easily be attached to various surfaces; shower walls and stools are perfect examples. During the ‘ride’, one partner can kiss, caress, or in any other way stimulate the other. Riding itself is a form of constant stimulation; taking turns to do so can be an extremely exciting visual aspect of the experience for both parties involved.

Experimenting with new positions is highly recommended. Mounting the dildo on the floor is one way to do this. Hands and knees over the dildo (with or without a cushion) and the ‘behind’ partner entering from the rear is a commonly used position. Double penetration, at least partially visual, is a near unique experience that each couple can develop and enjoy.

4. Harness Play for Shared Penetration

A harness allows one partner to “wear” a dildo, opening up new dynamics of giving and receiving pleasure. It’s an empowering tool for anyone, regardless of gender.

Pegging is done when a partner (often a woman) uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate their partner’s anals. Using a strap-on specifically for this purpose is the most common method. Having a new kind of connection with your partner can be an incredibly intimate and near-constant source of fulfillment; flipping some traditional roles is part of what makes it so desirable. Both partners experience this to various degrees.

Anal and vaginal sex: A harness is recommended as a means of enhancing the double penetration sensation. Experience of at least two distinct forms of penetration (anal being one, vaginal the other) is and should be, intensely pleasurable.

5. Double-Ended Dildo for Mutual Bliss

A double-ended dildo is a flexible toy with a usable tip on each end, specifically designed for partnered play.

It is referred to as scissoring with a twist. The partners with vaginas lie side by side and rub their vulvas together, with the dildo somehow in between them; an incredible amount of shared friction is produced.

Maintaining face-to-face contact and some form of mutual pleasure is the primary goal. The first partner will be vaginally penetrated, the second anal. Staying face-to-face is important, complete connection (of any and all senses) being the end result.

Choosing Your Dildo: A Quick Guide

With so many fun ways to play, which dildo should you choose? It depends on what you want to explore.

Final Thoughts on Shared Pleasure of Dildos

When you get a dildo, you embark on a journey of discovery; this will be an exciting part of your relationship. I see sex as a form of communication – desires being expressed, various new sensations to be experienced, and simply adding that all important ‘spark’ of novelty to one’s sexual life. The key, to me at least, is keeping it fun, playfully approached, with mutual enjoyment (of all parties involved) as the end point.

Taking some time to get to know each other more deeply is the next step; starting with what both people find exciting, open lines of communication being maintained, and all forms of near constant small or large scale intimacy and subsequent pleasure to be pursued. A few clicks away from beginning said adventure – physical or otherwise – is what I believe sex (and all that it encompasses) should always strive to be.